Are your angry emotional reactions causing you problems?

Often things don't work out how we expect, people don't do what they're supposed to do and we don't get what we want. It's no wonder we get emotional, feel like breaking things, shouting, and even hitting people.

As we grow from toddlers to adults, we learn that there is a distinction between the unalterable laws of physics which govern why the world doesn't bend to our wishes and the behaviour of the people around us.

People could give us what we expect or want or ask for if they wanted. We know this, so we can get even more frustrated when they don't.

The value of anger

Of course, sometimes it is 'wrong' in the objective sense. But even when it is merely a matter of not getting our way, it feels just as 'wrong' to us. This powerful feeling of being 'wronged' is anger. It can be a useful and powerful emotion in its place as it drives us into action against perceived threats.

The trouble is, anger is a primitive mechanism, and its simple primitive structure has not yet caught up with the complexities of modern life, where it isn't a good idea to treat your “incompetent” co-worker, say as if they were a tiger threatening your very existence.

What happens when you get angry?

The chemical changes that anger triggers in our bodies make us focus and act directly on a source of the threat, without paying attention to distracting surrounding circumstances. This, necessarily, makes us lose our rational perspective.

When angry we become blind to the subtleties of situations, totally convinced that we are 'right', and ready to bulldoze over others, no matter what the objective circumstances are.

As we all know, that's not great for our relationships with other people, at home, on a night out or at work.

But how do you get in control of this primitive force and use it more wisely and appropriately?

Here's how your hypnotherapy course will work

Once you’ve purchased your hypnotherapy courses, you’ll be sent a link via email or you can access your videos by logging into “my account” located on the menu bar.

Get yourself comfortable and make sure you won’t be disturbed. Turn off all mobile devices, radio and other distractions where possible. It’s important to set aside 1 hour of quiet time, this will allow you to immerse yourself into the session.

For maximum relaxation, we recommend you find somewhere quiet to lay down, but if you would rather sit in an armchair, it’s important to make sure your head and neck are properly supported.

Please try to use a speaker wherever possible rather than headphones, as these may distract you from the session if they become uncomfortable.

Need more information on hypnotherapy? Visit the NHS hypnotherapy treatment page.